9)Rape Fantasies
Many studies have indicated that one of the most common s3xual fantasies among women is the rape fantasy, a phenomenon that is rarely discussed due to the very real possibility that it will be used by foul individuals to justify actual rape, a horrifying and dehumanizing experience. An analysis of 20 studies conducted over 20 years have indicated that 37–51 percent of women have had such fantasies, and they’re regular or preferred for 9–17 percent. According to research by Joseph Critella and Jenny Bivona, there are many (often contradictory) reasons for this fantasy: For a minority of women, it relates to masochism. Studies have linked societal s3xual repression with such fantasies, indicating a desire to avoid s3xual blame.
Openness to s3xual experience (a character trait) has been correlated. Although the evidence is inconclusive, it’s possible that some women view being raped as a sign of their irresistible desirability. Male rape culture (in other words, social pressure to buy into male fantasies) may be a factor. Some feel that women have a biological predisposition to surrender, which has been observed in other species but not empirically tested in humans.
Being raped can activate the sympathetic nervous system (again, related to flight-or-fight responses and orgasm). Another cause may be the thought of adversary transformation, a “romantic” trope about “taming” men through s3x. Still other possible reasons could be a reaction to trauma (a psychological defensive mechanism) or laziness (according to anecdotal reports).A blogger under the pseudonym of Ranty McRanterson gave her experience: I have the rape fantasy, I’m gonna come out and say it because I can actually explain it. It is incredibly common to s3xualize fears. All kinds of fears. Just because I fantasize this doesn’t mean that I actually want it to happen. Think about it physically for a second, fear creates adrennaline, and adrennaline is exciting and that helps get you off pretty damn quick. It’s also common for s3xually abused children to fantasize about rape as adults, does that mean they want to be raped? NO!Professor Meredith Chivers has suggested that such fantasies may flourish through an absence of imagined negative repercussions, tapping into primitive s3xual instincts while avoiding the reality of the trauma.
The key issue that needs to be understood is that a rape fantasy is still a fantasy, which means it is a completely internal mental experience under the complete control of the person doing the fantasizing. Therefore, it stands in stark contrast to the violence, coercion, and loss of control in actual rape. For that reason, some prefer to refer to them as surrender fantasies or “fantasies about being ravished.” Psychology professor Marta Meana, a self-avowed feminist, believes it comes down to the idea that for a woman, “being desired is the orgasm,” and that women’s desire “is not relational [but] narcissistic.” Thus, so-called “rape fantasies” aren’t about a secret yearning to be the victim of a s3xual crime but rather a fantasy about willing surrender to a chosen partner, with the illusion of danger, while actual control still lies with the woman.
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