Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Please put yourself in my Shoes, what would you do ?

I have been seeing this guy  for 9 months and in those 9 months, all the time we'd s3x, it was unprotected. In reality I was the main one who always insisted he used protection to prevent any issues. He always claimed to have carried away. I didn't wish to be too pushy on the condom matter because we're both inside our 30s and we were taking a look at something serious. I once teased him saying “imagine if I got pregnant” and his reply was that there clearly was no better time than now. I was still being careful and tried to take contraceptives to prevent issues.


During the connection though I noticed that people weren't flowing much when it comes to exactly how we relate with each other…he was so quiet and I being truly a rather quiet person too, choose to go online to to ask a fresh boyfriend to be able to get to understand him better. I observed however he was very open and talkative with other people. 

I also observed that people rarely talked but he'd ping and ping. I mentioned this to the mutual friend through whom I met him and she said it was probably because we were still observing one another (after 9 months).  We both also agreed that the fact we reside in different towns are often grounds for not being close. He lives in Benin while I reside in Lagos For me, it was time and energy to draw the connection to an in depth but he'd a surgery which I was unacquainted with initially and this mutual friend of ours called me to say that I should visit him, adding that I will remember he'd no steady girlfriend.

I did so, convinced that we're able to work things out, but for me, we still didn't click, although I was surprised he could gather strength to make love in my experience while I was nursing him ,lol. I attributed our not bonding as I could have liked, to the fact he was ill and had just been discharged from hospital. I returned to base but missed my period after 3 weeks. I called him to share with him but he refused to get in touch till after 4 days, just for him to inform me that there have been issues According to him, he'd unprotected s3x together with his ex who he dated for 4 years, recently and she got  pregnant.  Now he wants her to keep her pregnancy and asked me to eliminate mine, so depressing! What can you do when it were you?

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